Obituary of Bonnie Jean Vaccarelli

August 3, 1938 - March 22, 2020

Bonnie Jean Vaccarelli was born in Cedar Hill, Tennessee on August 3, 1938 to Eugene and Gladys Osborne.  She was the youngest of three, with an older brother and sister.  In 1941 the family moved to Wyandotte, Michigan. On March 22, 2020 she made her transition surrounded by the love of her family, her daughters- Pamela and Gina, her sister Norma and niece Debbie.

Bonnie was the beloved wife of the late Donald Vaccarelli.  The loving mother to Pamela Vaccarelli and Gina (Scott) Vaccarelli Plonka.  She was the dearest grandmother to Vincenzo Vartanian and Bella Plonka, and great grandmother to Lola Vartanian.   She was a wonderful aunt to her nieces and nephews and had amazing friendships she cherished.  She was the dear sister to Donald (the late Barbara) Osborne and Norma (Don) Gentry.  She was an inspiration to all her family.

The memorial service has been postponed, please contact Pamela or Gina for further information. In lieu of flowers, donations for the family are greatly appreciated.  Please send c/o Molnar Funeral Home, 14032 Northline Rd. Southgate 48195.  Updates to memorial service will be posted to this site.

“Tis a fearful thing

to love what death can touch.

A fearful thing

to love, to hope, to dream, to be –

to be,

And oh, to lose.

A thing for fools, this,

And a holy thing,

a holy thing

to love.

For your life has lived in me,

your laugh once lifted me,

your word was gift to me.

To remember this brings painful joy,

‘Tis a human thing, love,

a holy thing, to love

what death has touched.

~ Yehuda Halevi

 

A Tribute to our Mother  –

“How lucky am I to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard.”  Winnie the Pooh.

Momma, our sweet little momma.  You were the stars in the sky for us – your daughters.  You shined a light so bright it filled a room and your voice was like a song.  You were raw and beautiful, with an edge that was admirable.  You were brave, and strong, and resilient, and when needed a force to be reckoned with.  You were generous and selfless and an incredible mother.  You were always there for us in every way.  You kept us safe and your love was infinite and undeniable.  You gave us life and took that responsibility to heart.  We never needed for anything.  We always had you and you always had us.

We truly never imagined a day without you.  There is an emptiness that echoes deep in our hearts at this heavy loss.  But our sense of belonging, strength, courage and knowing is a gift from you and daddy.  You both made a life that dreams are made of and for that we have endless gratitude.

As Gina and I make our way through pictures, cards and love notes we are overcome with sadness for what we miss, but immense joy for what we have known.  You and daddy kept every card and note from us, and you both saved all yours to each other.  The love in our home was extraordinary, and that gift is part of the fiber of our being.

Every single bit of you is missed as we knew it.  Today we are cloaked in numbness, a safe companion to help us navigate the details of our coming days.  We know the seeds of tomorrows healing lay in front of us as we travel on this delicate path called grief.  Grief – the deepest depth of change, this energy is an ally, it is the gateway to healing… ah we meet again.  We know the four of us are bonded through time and someday we will all be together again.  A deep love that is boundless and reverent.    

We know your heart was broken and you were lost without your true love, the day your husband, our father died on June 28, 2019.  For 268 days, as much as you tried, you couldn’t recover from this loss.  Your grief was a constant wave without much calm.  It is beautiful how much you loved him and how you honored him each day and night setting up a ritual that was sacred to watch.

Our greatest comfort is believing you have been reunited with your love, our love – your husband and our father.  From our sadness comes our hope, for our hearts are happy in a most heartbreaking time from what we lost, but what you have gained because you’ve been waiting to meet up again. So sweet momma be free and follow your dreams, for it is now that your amazing love story continues.

We love you forever and a day.  With love and light, always and forever connected, your daughters Pamela and Gina.

“Goodbyes are only for those who love with their eyes.  Because for those who love with their heart and soul there is no such thing as separation.”  Rumi

“If there ever comes a day when we can’t be together, keep me in your heart, I’ll stay there forever.” Winnie the Pooh.